Relationships are lessons

I don’t know for sure but I’m pretty sure a lot of people can relate to the title of this blog post.

Every relationship I have been in I have learnt things about myself and how to do this whole relationship stuff as correctly as I possibly can. I’ve also learnt about different types of relationships and how each partner has a different take on how to be my partner.

Relationships are wonderful but they are also hard work. They are not hard work because loving someone is hard, it’s painful yes, but not hard. They are hard work because you need to adjust to another person and how they see fit to behave and be ok with it.

You may think you know how it’s going to be when you date someone based on previous relationships but you don’t. They are all different. For example, you get the people who will text you constantly and then you’ll get the people who do not see it as necessary, unless they have something to say.

I’ve been in both of these situations and I can tell you now, I was so confused with the change in behaviour. I thought there must be something wrong with this relationship because it’s not how I remember my last one being. But, what we need to understand is, just because people take a different approach based on who they are as a person, this does not mean they care any less or love you any less.

I’ve also learnt to be less selfish and try to empathise as much as possible. We do seem to always think about how a situation makes ourselves feel but not how the other person in the relationship may or may not feel. This is something I struggle with but I’m learning.

If you learn good or bad things about yourself in any relationship that’s a good thing. You can then make each relationship better than the last (or at least try to).

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