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A conversation with a friend

Firstly, Happy New Year to all of my readers!

A friend of mine at work asked me a question today, it was along the lines of: 'will I ever be loved by someone else as much as I love them'. Now, before my current relationship I was in a 5 year relationship where I fell out of love with my partner. Even though it was my decision to end it, I still asked myself the same question, 'will anyone love me like he did?' The answer to that question was and is YES.

I know some people may sit there and read this and think, that's easy for you to say but you're not me or something else similar. The thing is, relationships are all the same in the sense that you fall in love, you sometimes love forever and sometimes you fall out of love. This is the same for every person in the entire world, the difference being that the relationship you have with your partner will be different to someone else's.

I have proved myself wrong as I fell in love with someone else pretty soon after my previous relationship. The point I am trying to make here is this, love a lot but do not live for anything other than the present. When you break up with someone who you spoke about marrying or having kids with, you feel like you have lost a lot more than just the partner when it ends. You feel like you've also lost that marriage, those kids, when you never really had them.

No one will only love one person in their lifetime and really if you think about it it's actually kind of silly to think that if you broke up with someone, you would never find someone else. There are millions of people in the world and some of those people will also love you like a previous partner did.

Final thought, love for now and enjoy what you have in the present. Love is inevitable and there are multiple people out there for everyone.

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